For some women ovulation is the horniest time of their cycle, for others menstruation can see them gagging for sex but struggling with the taboo nature and stigma of making love during this time. Period sex can be a bonding and erotic experience for both men and women, so as we aim to break down the social stigmas surrounding one of the most natural things in a woman's life - I recently interviewed a man about his growth from being anti blood to a lover of what I like to call Heavy Metal Sex...
As a male how did you feel about having sex with women during menstruation?
Initially I felt grossed out, unsure and confronted. I guess you think its gross because you associate blood with pain or being unhygienic.
Had you ever discussed it with friends?
Yeah and the general feeling between mates was that it was a no go zone, and even with ex partners a trace of blood would be enough to halt anything sexual happening.
In your experience how have women felt about it?
I guess they got embarrassed and it was just something that we never really spoke about too openly which just added to the taboo nature of it. Nothing really ever got resolved by shrouding it in secrecy, so it just became even more taboo and even more of a “no go” zone.
Can you remember your first experience with heavy metal sex?
Yeah I was with an old girlfriend one of the first times I can remember it happening, we were having sex and I pulled out and saw there was blood on my dick so I brought it to her attention, she got really embarrassed so we immediately stopped having sex. My ex girlfriend would completely abstain from any sexual interaction until there was no sign of blood so we'd go like a week at a time without having sex.
How did you feel about that?
I was cool about it, it was her choice and I respected that. In hindsight I feel her feelings about it definitely added to my feelings that it wasn't ok to have sex during that time.
Can you remember your first positive experience?
Yep. My most recent girlfriend had started taking the contraceptive pill and was bleeding pretty heavily and wasn't embarrassed or ashamed about it at all, she basically said “Who knows how long i’ll be bleeding, i’m not going without sex” and was completely comfortable with it which made me more confident to explore it with her. I was able to ask questions and know more so it didn't feel like such a taboo thing. She was also really horny during this time so there was no way I was getting out of having sex even if I wanted to *laughs*
Can you explain in detail the experience or if anything was different?
There was definitely a different smell about which was kind of arousing. I remember one of the times when she was ontop I could feel blood dripping down my balls which was actually really sexual. Every time we'd do it we'd end up with blood on us and afterwards would go have a shower together and wash eachother which was a pretty bonding experience.
I guess with any taboo it kind of turns you on more because it feels more naughty or whatever so then being with a partner who is totally fine with something others had been embarrassed about just helped me to embrace the sexiness of it.
Thoughts on heavy metal cunnilingus?
Well, its definitely not like i'd ever expected it to be with, like, coming up to find blood all over my face *laughs* I mean you don't have to be getting right up in there with your mouth while she's bleeding heavily if you don't want to, you can stimulate externally, focus on the clitoris rather than intense penetration if you want to avoid the blood. But at the end of the day it's just blood, like any other bodily fluid you're sharing while fucking and if you trust each other and know you're both healthy and what not then what's the problem? It's actually an educational experience, you get to learn more about clitoral stimulation techniques and how to work with her body. If anything it just adds to your skill set *laughs*
How do you feel about it now?
It's heaps raw and primal and my experience with my partner definitely flipped a switch inside me and made me realise hey this isn't weird or gross, it's human and actually pretty erotic. I remember one time watching her finger herself and seeing blood on her fingers and realising what a sexy and raw thing it was I was seeing.
Also learning more about the role periods play in women's lives and that it’s a pretty powerful thing added to the eroticism of it. It's also just basically an added lubricant which feels fucking good *laughs*
How does your partner feel about it?
She fucking loves it! She's all for it and encourages it, gets off on the kinkiness of it.
What would you say to your old self who wouldn't have engaged in heavy metal sex and to other men who still wont?
Don't be so suburban bro *laughs*. If you've never done it you don't truly know what the experience is like, don't make women feel ashamed for being their natural selves and you should feel lucky a woman even wants to fuck you ! *laughs*